As a professional Mistress, 
every day i get approached by many (slaves, subs and/or kinksters). 
The number of messages I receive can increase considerably. 
As a result, many men who approach me are only fakers and time wasters , and/or only contact me to fantasize and masturbate, so I am forced to be selective in contact. 
For that reason I have written out my general terms and conditions.

  Every professional Mistress has her own etiquette (GTC).   
I am convinced that every Mistress will appreciate it when you submit your intake form neatly and completely. 
If you introduce yourself well in the first contact, you will stand out and it will be more likely to have a good BDSM/Kink session that we both enjoy.

 1: 
Do your research 

You will probably find a Mistress on the internet; via social media or websites such as Kinky.nl or X (Twitter)
Make sure you not only look at her photos. More important is to read the  advertisement text carefully. 
The text often makes a lot clear about what is, and is not possible during a BDSM session. 
Almost every professional Mistress has a website. 
Read and study this carefully, so you can get to know her a little and assess whether your preferences and boundaries match. 

 2: 
Show Respect—Or Be Dismissed

When approaching a Mistress, respect is not optional—it’s the bare minimum.

Most Mistresses clearly state how they expect to be addressed. If you can’t follow that, don’t expect a response.

Unsolicited nudes are never acceptable. Unless explicitly requested, they are seen as disrespectful and pathetic—and will get you blocked without a second thought.

Attempting to negotiate the price of a session is equally insulting. A professional Mistress is not here to bargain. Her time, energy, and expertise are valuable. If you can’t honour that, you are not worthy of her attention.

3: 
Submit a Proper Intake Form

If you're serious about approaching a Professional Mistress, start by presenting yourself properly. Your intake form should be neat, complete, and respectful.

Introduce yourself politely and clearly state your intention. Are you looking to schedule a first session? Say so.
Briefly describe your experience in the scene—whether you're a novice or have years of submission behind you. Include your boundaries and preferences so I can immediately assess whether we're a potential match.

Messages like “Hi” or “Hey there” are lazy and will be ignored. Respect is the foundation of any worthwhile exchange—and if you can’t demonstrate that from the start, you won’t get far with me.

4:
keep communicating!

One of the most important things in any Dom/Sub dynamic: consistent communication.

By staying open and honest, you allow your Mistress to truly understand your limits, desires, and boundaries. This deepens the connection and ensures the experience is both safe and satisfying—for both of us.

Communication can happen before or after a session, and if permitted, even during. If I choose to ask you something mid-session, answer clearly and truthfully. Your honesty is not only expected—it's required.

Remember: the more I know, the more control I can take.